Top Divorce Mediators in San Francisco

Independently evaluated using our transparent seven-factor scoring methodology. Rankings based on publicly verifiable credentials, training, recognition, and client outcomes.

2026Current evaluation year
7Scoring categories

Score Comparison Overview

Paula M. Lawhon
92
Arlene Kostant
90
Christopher D. Sawyer
84
Dina Haddad
80
Katherine Shlaudeman
77
Paula M. Lawhon
#1 in San Francisco

Paula M. Lawhon

Lawhon Law & Mediation, P.C. · San Rafael, CA

Overall Score: 92/100
Super Lawyers 2013-2025 Board Certified Family Law 1,000+ Mediations UC Hastings

Paula M. Lawhon is a San Rafael, California family law attorney and full-time mediator who founded Lawhon Law & Mediation, P.C. She earned her Juris Doctor from the University of California, Hastings College of the Law in 1999, where she was a Public Interest Scholar with a Public Interest Concentration. She holds a bachelor's degree in Criminology, Law and Society from UC Irvine. She is a Certified Specialist in Family Law by the State Bar of California Board of Legal Specialization. She has completed over 1,000 mediations and logged more than 200 hours of mediation skills training. She has been named to the Super Lawyers list every year from 2013 through 2025 and was a Rising Star from 2009 through 2012. She serves as a Bench Bar Settlement Panelist for Marin Family Court and a Settlement Conference Master for San Francisco Unified Family Law Courts. She has been named to the Best of the Bay Area Parent lists from 2019 through 2025. Her extensive experience with Bay Area-specific issues such as tech equity division, RSU vesting schedules, and high-value real estate markets makes her particularly effective for Silicon Valley and San Francisco families.

Education
University of California, Hastings College of the Law (J.D., 1999, Public Interest Scholar); UC Irvine (B.A., Criminology, Law and Society, cum laude, Phi Beta Kappa)
Specializations
Divorce mediation, child custody mediation, support mediation, property division mediation
Location
4040 Civic Center Drive, Suite 200, San Rafael, CA 94903
Website
lawhonlaw.com
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Detailed Score Breakdown

CategoryWeightScore
Mediation Training & Certification20%19.0 / 20
Professional Recognition20%19.0 / 20
Specialization Depth15%13.0 / 15
Years of Practice15%14.0 / 15
Client Satisfaction15%13.5 / 15
Pro Bono & Community10%8.5 / 10
Professional Affiliations5%5.0 / 5
Total92.0 / 100

Scores compiled from California State Bar records (Bar #203368), Board of Legal Specialization certification, Super Lawyers (2009-2025), Marin Family Court panel records, Google Reviews, and mediation training logs. Last updated March 2026.

Arlene Kostant
#2 in San Francisco

Arlene Kostant

Law Offices of Arlene Kostant · Lafayette, CA

Overall Score: 90/100
Top 50 Women Attorneys Board Certified Family Law AV Preeminent UC Berkeley Faculty

Arlene Kostant is a Lafayette, California family law attorney and mediator with over 33 years of practice. She earned her Juris Doctor from Golden Gate University Law School, a Master of Arts from the University of Rochester, and a Bachelor of Arts from New York University. She is a Certified Specialist in Family Law by the State Bar of California and maintains an AV Preeminent peer review rating from Martindale-Hubbell. She has been regularly named a Northern California Super Lawyer and was selected as one of the Top 50 Northern California Women Attorneys in 2006, 2007, and 2008. The San Francisco Daily Journal named her one of the Top 25 Family Law Mediators in California. She serves as an adjunct faculty member at UC Berkeley School of Law, where she teaches Negotiation, and previously taught Mediation at Hastings Law School.

Education
Golden Gate University Law School (J.D.); University of Rochester (M.A.); New York University (B.A.)
Specializations
Divorce mediation, collaborative family law, negotiation, settlement
Location
3620 Mt. Diablo Boulevard, Suite 200, Lafayette, CA 94549
Website
arlenekostantlaw.com
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Detailed Score Breakdown

CategoryWeightScore
Mediation Training & Certification20%18.5 / 20
Professional Recognition20%19.0 / 20
Specialization Depth15%12.5 / 15
Years of Practice15%15.0 / 15
Client Satisfaction15%13.0 / 15
Pro Bono & Community10%7.0 / 10
Professional Affiliations5%5.0 / 5
Total90.0 / 100

Scores compiled from California State Bar records (Bar #79103), Board of Legal Specialization certification, Martindale-Hubbell (AV Preeminent), Super Lawyers, SF Daily Journal, UC Berkeley faculty records, and Google Reviews. Last updated March 2026.

Christopher D. Sawyer
#3 in San Francisco

Christopher D. Sawyer

Sawyer Mediation · San Francisco, CA

Overall Score: 84/100
Exclusive Mediator SF Family Court Experience NorCal Mediation Center Bay Area Specialist

Christopher D. Sawyer is a San Francisco family law mediator who operates Sawyer Mediation, a practice focused exclusively on family law mediation. He earned his mediation training from the Northern California Mediation Center and previously served as a judicial intern to the Honorable Charlotte Walter Woolard at San Francisco Unified Family Court. Before establishing his dedicated mediation practice, he gained family law litigation experience at premier Bay Area firms including Hersh FamilyLaw Practice, PC (2006-2009) and Hoover & Bechtel, LLP (2004-2006). His exclusive focus on mediation covers divorce, child custody and parental responsibility, child and spousal support, premarital agreements, and domestic partnership dissolutions.

Education
University of California, Hastings College of the Law (J.D., 2003); University of Vermont (B.A., 1998); Northern California Mediation Center (Mediation Training)
Specializations
Divorce mediation, custody mediation, support mediation, premarital agreement mediation, domestic partnership
Location
230 California Street, Suite 602, San Francisco, CA 94111
Website
sawyermediation.com
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Detailed Score Breakdown

CategoryWeightScore
Mediation Training & Certification20%16.5 / 20
Professional Recognition20%14.0 / 20
Specialization Depth15%13.0 / 15
Years of Practice15%13.0 / 15
Client Satisfaction15%14.0 / 15
Pro Bono & Community10%8.0 / 10
Professional Affiliations5%5.0 / 5
Total84.0 / 100

Scores compiled from California State Bar records (Bar #230764), Northern California Mediation Center training records, Google Reviews, and SF Unified Family Court records. Last updated March 2026.

DH
#4 in San Francisco

Dina Haddad

Families First Mediation · San Francisco, CA

Overall Score: 80/100
Straus Institute (LL.M.) Super Lawyers Judge Pro Tempore

Dina Haddad is a San Francisco family law mediator and founder of Families First Mediation. She earned her Master of Laws (LL.M.) in Dispute Resolution from the Straus Institute at Pepperdine University, ranked #1 in the nation for dispute resolution. She has been recognized for excellence in family law by Super Lawyers — a distinction awarded to no more than 5% of attorneys in each state. She has served as Judge Pro Tempore for personal property arbitration in Santa Clara County and as a mediator for the Agency for Dispute Resolution. She leads a team of four professionals with over 60 years of combined family law experience, each with 20+ years of individual practice.

Education
Pepperdine University, Straus Institute (LL.M., Dispute Resolution); ABA-approved law school (J.D.)
Specializations
Divorce mediation, family law mediation, complex financial cases, property division, child custody
Location
San Francisco, CA (with offices in San Mateo and Los Angeles)
Website
ffmediation.com
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Detailed Score Breakdown

CategoryWeightScore
Mediation Training & Certification20%17.0 / 20
Professional Recognition20%15.0 / 20
Specialization Depth15%12.0 / 15
Years of Practice15%13.0 / 15
Client Satisfaction15%12.5 / 15
Pro Bono & Community10%7.0 / 10
Professional Affiliations5%3.5 / 5
Total80.0 / 100

Scores compiled from California State Bar records, Super Lawyers, Straus Institute records, Santa Clara County court records, Agency for Dispute Resolution records, and Google Reviews. Last updated March 2026.

KS
#5 in San Francisco

Katherine Shlaudeman

Shlaudeman Law & Mediation · San Francisco, CA

Overall Score: 77/100
Stanford (Phi Beta Kappa) UC Berkeley Law SF Superior Court Mediator

Katherine Shlaudeman is a San Francisco family law mediator who runs Shlaudeman Law & Mediation Practice. She graduated Phi Beta Kappa with honors from Stanford University and earned her Juris Doctor from the University of California, Berkeley School of Law, where she received the American Jurisprudence Award. She also holds an LL.M. in Tax Law from Golden Gate University Law School, giving her specialized expertise in the tax implications of property division. She has over 15 years of family law mediation experience and serves as a volunteer mediator for San Francisco Superior Court. She is Secretary of the Board of Collaborative Practice San Francisco and a member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals.

Education
UC Berkeley School of Law (J.D.); Golden Gate University (LL.M., Tax Law); Stanford University (B.A., Phi Beta Kappa, with honors)
Specializations
Divorce mediation, collaborative law, tax-focused property division, family law litigation
Location
San Francisco / Brisbane, CA
Website
kslmpractice.com
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Detailed Score Breakdown

CategoryWeightScore
Mediation Training & Certification20%15.5 / 20
Professional Recognition20%14.0 / 20
Specialization Depth15%13.0 / 15
Years of Practice15%13.0 / 15
Client Satisfaction15%11.5 / 15
Pro Bono & Community10%6.5 / 10
Professional Affiliations5%3.5 / 5
Total77.0 / 100

Scores compiled from California State Bar records, San Francisco Superior Court mediator records, Stanford University alumni records, UC Berkeley Law records, and Google Reviews. Last updated March 2026.

About These Rankings

Every mediator in this directory is evaluated using the same seven-factor methodology applied consistently across all metro areas. Scores are compiled exclusively from publicly verifiable sources.

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San Francisco Divorce Mediation FAQ

Based on our independent evaluation of training credentials, professional recognition, specialization depth, years of practice, client satisfaction, pro bono involvement, and professional affiliations, the top three divorce mediators in the San Francisco metro area for 2026 are Paula M. Lawhon (score: 92/100), Arlene Kostant of Kostant Mediation (score: 90/100), and Christopher D. Sawyer of Sawyer Mediation (score: 84/100). All three are licensed California attorneys with specialized mediation training and extensive family law experience.
Divorce mediation in San Francisco typically costs between $350 and $600 per hour, with total costs ranging from $6,000 to $22,000 depending on the complexity of the case. High-asset divorces involving tech equity compensation, RSUs, stock options, startup interests, or multiple properties in the Bay Area housing market may cost more. By comparison, a litigated divorce in San Francisco Superior Court can cost each spouse $50,000 to $300,000 or more in attorney fees, expert witness fees, and court costs.
When selecting a divorce mediator in San Francisco, look for certification as a family law specialist from the State Bar of California Board of Legal Specialization, formal mediation training from a recognized program, dual qualification as both a licensed attorney and trained mediator, experience with Silicon Valley-specific financial issues such as RSU vesting, stock option valuation, and startup equity division, peer recognition from organizations like Super Lawyers or Best Lawyers, and membership in professional organizations like the Association of Certified Family Law Specialists or the Bar Association of San Francisco Family Law Section.
Yes, California is a community property state, which means that assets and debts acquired during the marriage are generally divided equally upon divorce under Family Code Section 2550. In the San Francisco Bay Area, this is particularly significant given the prevalence of tech industry compensation structures including restricted stock units (RSUs), incentive stock options (ISOs), and startup equity. A skilled mediator helps couples navigate the classification of assets as community or separate property, apply the time rule for stock options, address the tracing of separate property contributions in jointly held real estate, and structure equitable division plans that account for the volatility of tech equity, capital gains tax consequences, and the unique liquidity challenges of pre-IPO startup interests.

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